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lprovenI imagine that many of you out there will now be aware of the sad news that ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
zarp -- Eris, previously Zoe -- took her own life over the Easter weekend. The note -- or one of them -- is here on LJ.
Perhaps some of you wish that you had been able to do more to help her or something. I know that I certainly do.
But there may yet be something that you can do.
Eris' father, Michael, discovered her body on Sunday morning. This must, I am sure you will agree, be one of the very worst things that can happen to any parent. He and her mother are absolutely distraught.
Now, I had known Eris/Zoe for a very long time -- as a member of CIX, since the 1990s, when she was still Tony. I daresay that many of you didn't know Tony. He was very shy and retiring -- the only times I ever met him were at the annual CIX Barbies.
Zoe was a lot more outgoing -- she came to conventions, parties, pub meets, nightclubs and all manner of social events. I suspect that her parents did not realise how many people that Zoe/Eris' life had touched. I am sure that she knew hundreds of people up and down the country, perhaps even thousands.
If you are wishing that you had done something, well, you still can. Send a card or a letter to her parents, telling her that you knew her, sharing your positive memories of her. Pictures would be good, too.
Obviously, I am not going to post their address publicly on the Web, and I'd prefer not to have to forward loads of mail. So, please contact me and I'll pass on their address.
I am hoping that a small deluge of cards and letters expressing sympathy and condolences, sharing memories or stories or pictures, would help her mum and dad to understand how many people Eris/Zoe touched in her tragically short life.
My email address is all over the web, but if you're very Google-challenged, then it's the same ID as my Livejournal on the Google email service. Or just leave a comment with some way to contact you below.
zarp -- Eris, previously Zoe -- took her own life over the Easter weekend. The note -- or one of them -- is here on LJ.Perhaps some of you wish that you had been able to do more to help her or something. I know that I certainly do.
But there may yet be something that you can do.
Eris' father, Michael, discovered her body on Sunday morning. This must, I am sure you will agree, be one of the very worst things that can happen to any parent. He and her mother are absolutely distraught.
Now, I had known Eris/Zoe for a very long time -- as a member of CIX, since the 1990s, when she was still Tony. I daresay that many of you didn't know Tony. He was very shy and retiring -- the only times I ever met him were at the annual CIX Barbies.
Zoe was a lot more outgoing -- she came to conventions, parties, pub meets, nightclubs and all manner of social events. I suspect that her parents did not realise how many people that Zoe/Eris' life had touched. I am sure that she knew hundreds of people up and down the country, perhaps even thousands.
If you are wishing that you had done something, well, you still can. Send a card or a letter to her parents, telling her that you knew her, sharing your positive memories of her. Pictures would be good, too.
Obviously, I am not going to post their address publicly on the Web, and I'd prefer not to have to forward loads of mail. So, please contact me and I'll pass on their address.
I am hoping that a small deluge of cards and letters expressing sympathy and condolences, sharing memories or stories or pictures, would help her mum and dad to understand how many people Eris/Zoe touched in her tragically short life.
My email address is all over the web, but if you're very Google-challenged, then it's the same ID as my Livejournal on the Google email service. Or just leave a comment with some way to contact you below.
